On saturday morn i was in the shower when i experienced a big bleed, i went straight to gp who did a preg test got a BFP however cos i was bleeding i knew there was a problem. I got sent straight away for an internal ultrasound, they couldn't find anything in the uterus but found a mass and fluid in my left tube. They sent me straight to hosp , i was admitted straight away, within 1 hr was in surgery where they performed a laporoscpy where they had to remove my left tube.
It all happened so quickly that my head is still spinning, i didn't even know i was preg till saturday, no time to digest that news let alone that i was having an ectopic preg.
I have two beautiful children already, thank god for them as they are getting me through this. i'm not quite sure how to get through this, we were always going to have at least three children but now i don't think i could go through this again.
I just had to get this out cos i feel like i can't say this to my family, they all feel like i should feel blessed as i have two healthy children which is so true but they can't understand the loss i feel.
I'm so sorry for your loss . I had a suspected ectopic pregnancy two years ago, and like you I didn't know I was pregnant until I started bleeding. It was such a scary time, I'm so sorry you have been through it . Take all the time you need to heal and allow yourself to grieve.
I am so sorry darl, it breaks my heart to read that you are going through this. I know exactly how you are feeling and it is completely normal to feel this way after suffering a loss. You need to allow yourself the time to grieve, this will take time but slowly things will start to get better.
You know that i am ALWAYS here for you, if you need me to do ANYTHING please let me know. My thoughts and prayers are with you,Dean,Joshy & Chloe during this very difficult time
Oh Christina, I am so sorry for your loss hun. It would have been such a shock to go through the ectopic pregnancy, and losing your follopian tube as well .
All I can offer you is a huge hug hun, I can imagine how very painful it all must be. Please just know, that with time, and when you are healed physically and emotionally, you still have a follopian tube if you choose to get pregnant again. I can imagine it's the last thing on your mind ATM, but with time you might be open to the idea once again.
I am also sorry that your family is not fully understanding about your loss, unfortunatelly, they don't understand as they probably haven't been through such loss themselves, and sometimes they will focus on the positives (such as you having 2 beautiful and healthy children) to make you feel better.
Look after yourself, Christina, and be kind to yourself. You have been through so much, you'll need your family and friends to get you through this painful experience.
Beata xx
last weekend i found out i was expecting my 3rd child which delighted myself and my husband .. then on monday i noticed a light bleeding ... i didnt panick but took myself off to the doctors who then booked me in with the early pregnancy unit ...
i had an internal scan but they couldnt see anything so they monitered me by blood tests by the end of the week my hcg levels were rising and i was finally told after another 3 internal scans that the baby was in my right ovarie !!! i had 3 doctors in the room and one said the only option was to remove my ovarie and tube!!!! i just sat in shock crying begging them for some other option ... then another doctor suggested methotrexate injection because i was only 4/5 weeks i could have kissed her there and then ... i had the injection today and was also told today that my hcg levels are slowly coming down even before i started this treatment so everything is looking good ..... but my point is even as i was leaving the hosptal on friday the other doctor was saying look we can have u in the operating room within an hour and u can go home tomorrow , look elaine uv got to look at what youve got and thats 2 healthy children??
to wrap this very long point up ! i am very grateful for my 2 children but it doesnt help with this loss its harsh and its painful your emotions and fears are all over the place .. and silly comments like these dont help anyone ........ i feel we need more suport then we are getting .......
so sorry for your loss, it's so hard to go through this especially when your family don't really understand why you are finding it so hard to come to terms with it. I have to say my OB has been amazing and didn't try and brush it off like my family has.
I got my stitches out yesterday and had some pretty positive news if we want to try again - i didn't have any scarring or blockages to my remainding tube and there are no other probs, my OB seems to think i won't have too many problems in conceiving again, i guess the fear is it happening again.
What has your doc said in regards to having more children? i hope all is good and at least you won't have to have surgery.
I am very sorry to hear about your loss and the ectopic. I had one last year and it was very traumatic and I lost my right tube. However, after then going through IVF cycles and a miscarriage, around Crhsitmas we conceived naturally through my one remaining tube, which is apparently in "bad shape"...and I ovulated on the side without a tube. So I just wanted to give you hope that it is possible to conceive naturally after an ectopic, even when your remaining tube isn't too good.
I hope you heal and recover well, emotionally and physically
thanks so much for your post, it really does give me some hope if we decide to go down that track... right now i'm so scared it will happen again i don't know if i've got the guts to try again. congrats on the pregnancy that's fantastic.
i felt that way for quite a while too, and then decided it was worth trying naturally (while waiting for our next IVF cycle)...I have been monitored carefully this pregnancy with HCG blood tests and early scans to check for any signs of ectopic from early on.
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I don't know what to say.. I am so sorry for your loss..
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