feelings of grief

[nicjay]

Salt - I really appreciated that she did that for me, obviously I was very emotional the next day, but I was very touched I also had a call like you did about a doctor's appointment (not obs though thank goodness! What a silly woman that midwife must be!) - this was even after I had rung and cancelled it and explained why! GRRRR Off topic I know, but I see you are in the TWW ATM, just wanted to wish you the best of luck!

Tei - I had very different reactions from family and friends and am still coming to terms with some of the insensitive remarks and also total lack of acknowledgement of my miscarriage by some of them too. My mother is top of the list when it comes to dumb remarks and I must admit that my relationship with her is still strained My DH's family were also wierd to me after it happened and I have never so much as had an "I'm sorry for your loss" and/or a hug from some of them, which I have found difficult to cope with.

My relationship with my DH was challenged by all this (although we have had other issues in our lives lately with my DH being made redundant from his job). We found though, by continuing to talk about our feelings to each other that we have a greater understanding of each other and our relationship is closer than ever. I really don't know what I would have done without him.

I have pushed friends away, especially those who are pregnant/have babies while I continue to cope with everything. But I am also the type of person who prefers to grieve by myself, so I think I would have done this anyway if that makes sense. I totally appreciate those of them who remain supportive to me, but just need the space to come to terms. But I know these friendships will remain close in the end

Sorry to ramble on!