Starrysky, when I had my US due to spotting and the sonographer found that the baby had died, she wasnt very helpful, but did ask if I was sure of my dates etc etc. I guess it was to make sure that I was as far along as I thought. Anyway, once Id had the US and discovered the bad news, I went in to pay for the US and they said, its ok we will bulk bill you. Now its not much, but at that moment I was so upset and thought that it was very nice of them to do that for me.

As for what happened when I had my 3 m/c's, well the first time it was like the dr said its only ur first m/c dont let it worry you too much, and to be honest I didnt quite know how to feel because I had never had a m/c before! No one offered me any support and when I asked the dr what I do next, they said "this is very common in ur age group, we dont look into anything until you have had 3 m/c's etc etc"! I felt like a failure. The second time I m/c'd was a little bit harder and probably the worse one of all, but still no one offered me any support and I was basically sent home to just let my body do its thing! The last time (and I hope thats true!) was just a nightmare, I couldnt believe it could happen yet again. Even after the 3rd m/c in a row the dr still didnt really offer any info until I asked him if there is any tests that can be done now! He was a pretty sympathetic, and I dont think he realised how upset I was but after that I had heaps of tests done and finally my first D&C after a m/c. I just felt that no one really cared how we felt and that its just a normal occurence with women my age, but just a little bit of caring and yeah maybe a shoulder to cry on would have made all the difference.

I know I shouldnt say this, but if I had the choice of when to m/c it wouldve been early like I did as I dont think I could go thru losing a baby at a later stage in pregnancy. I really feel for people that lose their babies in the 2nd or 3rd trimester, that would be an absolute nightmare. Please dont get me wrong when I say that, I was really upset when I had all 3 m/c's and wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy, but I hope people understand what Im saying here.