Goodbye little Caterpillar

[Inanna]

Butterfly, what is important is that you are happy. I personally wouldn't be happy with someone who spoke to me that way.
It may be so that you need some help to sort through the emotional stuff etc etc. I think that is really really important. It is true that depression and anxiety gives a predisposition to post natal depression. To suggest though that you would develop post natal psychosis and harm your child is really going out on a limb (imo). I really think that is an outrageous and harmful claim to make.
I would certainly see a counsellor. Most good clinics will have one working there. I actually feel sure that if you contact ivf Sydney (where gavin is based) they would be able to give you some contacts. You imo need to speak to someone who understands the ins and outs of infertility and it's pains. Just a regular counsellor may not be so helpful. Just like the best place to take the car to get the electricals seen to may not be a general mechanic... iykwim

Keep an open mind butterfly until you see Gavin. I would be shocked if he spoke to you this way...
This person has to travel a very emotional and difficult journey with you. Make a list of what you want in a care provider. Does this guy fit the bill? This is your gig. You are paying the big money. There is more to a care provider than his/her knowledge. We need to feel treated with respect and intelligence. We need to feel that are fears and concerns are heard. If you feel this way then well and good but do ask yourself these questions.

This person will travel your pregnancy with you, you need much much compassion and caring as well as top notch skills.

This is a flying visit but I wanted to respond. I will come back this afternoon.
I am sending you much love and hugs my love...