Ange,

First of all, hugs to you and your friend. I am glad she has you as a prop. It really helps.

Her loss sounds similar to mine.

To be honest, that period is all a bit of blur for me, but I had a D&C @ 13 weeks.

For me personally I was horrifed at the idea of "carrying a dead baby" inside me. (Sorry, that is awful, but I was so devestated at my loss, that I literally couldn;t handle the thought.)

So a D&C was good emotionally for me.

I held a certain balme on my body too, and in some mixed up way I felt that a D&C would somehow cleanse that?

On a practical/physical level, the procedure was quick easy and painless. I had minimal pain and bleeding.

I did rest up for a week, but physcially I was fine. Emotionally broken, but phyically fine.

As far as I am aware there are minimal risks.

It would probably really really vary as to how long the body would take to mc naturally. I wouldn;t have wanted to wait. And at that late stage, I woudl imagine a lot more painful than recovery from a D&C?

Not sure if that helps any, but hugs to you both.