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I think its great that you are trying to help your friend through this.. i echo Springs suggestions on the cooking and offering to do small things for her, after a loss, our brains dont function normally for a while, and i am sure these small things may help her out a bit.

Also definatley play it by ear abit, some days she may want distraction and to have one day when no one asks if she is ok, or brings up her loss and other days it may be all she wants to talk about, so just be prepared to really be there for her, and allow her to be selfish in her grief.

If she does choose to name her angel babies, use their names when you talk about them, and really acknowledge them as little people.

Also for future reference, remember her due dates, and the dates of her loss, like when she has found out she has to terminate, adn when she actually does because when these days come up again- especially her due date, she will remember, and it helps to know other people have remembered those days without having to be reminded.

If she has already started to set up a nursery, perhaps offer to help her pack things away, or to be there with her when she does it, and to cry with her, or if she is not up to looking at things, offer to put them away for her in a safe place so when she is ready she knows where the things are and she can look at them when she is ready.

I have noticed by your ticker that you have a new bub yourself... she may or may not be happy to see this bub, it will greatly depend on her feelings and perhaps whether she has spent much time with your bub before loosing her own, and this is about her, not about you... I can only tell you from my own experience, that after loosing my angels, the last thing in the world i wanted to see was someone elses new born. Also if the two of you had conversations of your babies growing up together and playing together etc, this may hurt her alot to see your bub with out her playmates. Again, please do not feel bad, its not that she wishes your bub was gone instead, it is just a painful reminder of what she isnt going to have when she thought she was, and it may take time for her to be ok, or she may be ok right away, as i dont her, i cant be certain, as i said, this is just from my own experience..

A really nice gesture you could do if there are a few of you there wanting to show support, is to purchase a Star (or 2) and name them after her bubs, it may take some time to organise, but it would be a very special gift for her and her hubby to recieve on their babies due date. A gesture to know their angels will never be forgotten.

As for the actual condition her babies have suffered, i am not aware of it, i would have suggested google, or maybe find a medical inq, site and keep trying. Good luck!

Again, i say good on you for trying to find out how to help your friend through this unbeleivably horrid time.

Take care
StarBright