Maverick, I'm so very sorry for your loss.

I was in a similar situation - IVF pregnancy, scan at 6.5 weeks showed everything ok, scan at 8.5 weeks showed no baby, no heartbeat. Our FS said it was a blighted ovum...

It does get better in time. I too had some absolutely pointless and dreadful things said to me, I think it comes out of people caring, but not really knowing what the right thing to say is.

I did find that in many ways, getting back to work and moving my focus to something else helped a lot with my ability to cope. I also spent some time seeing a psychologist, and it really helped to spend some time talking through everything that was worrying me. Not just in relation to losing our much wanted baby, but in all aspects of life. I've come out of the process in a much healthier mental state than I have been in for years, and with a much better marriage and relationship with my husband...

It does take time. Don't rush it, don't force yourself into things that you are genuinely not ready for, and don't beat up on yourself for having bad days. I still have bad days here and there, but given time, things do improve.

There's all too many women here who know exactly how you feel right now.

BW