Hi TCM - so sorry for your recent loss
I think everyone deal with grief in a different way - men especially - i know my DH wanted all the pain (emotionally) for me to go away he just wanted to fix it but he couldn't - i think he felt completely helpless. I think BW is right in the sense that men do not feel as attached at first as there is no outward signs of pregnancy (apart from bigger boobs) i mean i don't think they really think of it as a baby till you start to show, they know there is a baby growing in there but its just different for them, and who can blame them they are not the ones carrying. I think you need to give it time and you will find your DH will talk about it in time. As far as DTD i think you need to talk to your doctor about that one, i can't really remember as i did not really feel like it for a long while after.And the only way we can fall pregers is on IVF so DTD was not going to give me a baby. I understand that you want to start asap but maybe just ring your :doctor: first or something. I know when i left hospital they gave me all these pamphlets etc did they give you any info on this subject?
Wishing you much luck and i hope you get another BFP really soon. Stay strong and be kind to yourselves.