im very sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you truely know that nothing you thought or did made this happen. Im sorry you had to explain such a difficult thing to your son. Its hard for us to explain to ourselves let alone a child.

Im also sorry the Dr you saw was not more understanding. When i had my missed m/c i had a D&C the next morning. I had no pain, no bleeding at all. I dont understand why some recommend "Waiting and Seeing". I found it much "easier" to have the D&C and I really beleive it would have been much harder to deal with to go through a natural m/c if i had been made to wait for nature to take its course.

i hope you get the help and treatment you want and go on to have a happy and healthy pregnancy when the time comes.