becky--I'm so, so sorry for your loss You will never hear "it's for the best" from anyone here at BB! Grief has no timeframe, you'll have your good days, and you'll have bad ones...don't allow yourself to just "soldier on", you need to yell and scream, cry and vent...or one day down the road you'll break down. Many of us here have found that friends and family just don't know what to say because they just can't comprehend what it feels like to have a living, breathing, moving child inside of them--only to have it taken away from them. Unfortunately we here at BB understand this all too well, we know your pain, the anguish, the questions, all the thoughts that just keep running through your mind...we will always support you here! You're in my thoughts and I wish you strength to get through these dark days! Big