Oh hunni,
I didn't realise how horrible that scan was for you. i'm so sorry that lady was so insensitive. Definitely not what you need in that moment!!
I'm still really hoping and praying for you that this little bub pulls through for you. I know how hard it is but i'm so sorry i still don't have anything to say that could possibly make you feel better.
I think the waiting is the hardest part. With my blighted ovum I had to wait three weeks (took me to 12weeks) after finding out to miscarry. It's so torturous. I hope Friday will be the last day for you if it is all over so that you can move on soon.
I'm so sorry again that this is such a rough time for you. xx
Thanks Kir xx.....she was pretty horrible - I told the OB so she is going to put in a complaint as she said that's no way to talk to someone in that situation. They obviously become complacent, it was probably the 10th time she'd done it that day and figures it's no big deal, who knows. How you coped with waiting 3 weeks I do not know, it's creeping me out now! I will be having a D&C this time because this is my 3rd m/c technically so they will probably run tests to see if it's a chromosomal thing, even though my last 2 were likely chemical pregnancies due to the low progesterone. I think it's more an age thing. Great to think not only do I have to now worry about it being chromosomal. I'd love to hang onto the hope that bub is still kicking on, but the odds are against me and call it intuition but I don't feel pregnant anymore, nausea has gone - it was on and off before but it's gone altogether and I swear my stomach feels/looks less bloated. Anyway, I'll keep you posted but I hope your scan next week is a goodie, time for some good news!
I'm glad your ob is putting in a complaint. Whether it was her 1st or 10th for the day....it is a job that you need to understand that each person needs to be treated as the only one. Like anything in medicine really.
I think the 3weeks was what i needed in the end to come to terms with it so in hindsight im ok with it. Was hard waiting though - i did have a d & c booked for the following monday and it started on that weekend. So i was at the end of my rope for waiting. plus ppl were asking if i was preggers. that was the worst.
I think they can still send things away for testing prolly via gp or early pregnancy service...because i will probably do that if it happens again too...but i just can't do the d & c thing. i think you are brave for considering it! It really creeps me out lol.
Thanks. I'm hoping for some good news soon too...for me and you!
Alison - Sending many your way. My FS was a bit matter of fact as well but I think because I already knew and I told him I already knew that it wasn't so harsh for me to hear it out loud. I thiknk you are right when you say they become complacent. They must see so many things like this that they just get used to it. Doesn't make it ny easier for you the patient who this is all happening to though.
I couldn't have waited to MC naturally. I'm one to get things over and done with as quickly as possible. I wouldn't have been able to stand waiting to MC. It would just be killing me and keeping me on edge waiting for it to start and not wanting to go any where for fear of it happeneing in public or work or something. So I chose D&C's after both my diagnosis's.
Thanks Porsche, you and are I are very similar, even now I'm sitting here wishing I could get it over with now, I hate waiting for the inevitable to happen. Plus having a miscarriage is not nice to experience, I'm sure a D&C isn't nice either but to me it's the lesser of 2 evils. My OB is also the FS so I'm lucky in that retrospect, she's so lovely. Can I ask did you still have any sensations before having the miscarriage? I'm still having pressure and the little twinges like things are stretching, not sure if it's miscarriage coming or not. I'm absolutely paranoid to have a natural miscarriage before I see her on Friday, I'm still on the progesterone so hoping that keeps it at bay but have no idea, this is only my 2nd cycle on the progesterone.
I hope you can find the strength to move on as well and wishing us both lots of sticky vibes for the near future, we deserve it after all. xx
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your way. My FS was a bit matter of fact as well but I think because I already knew and I told him I already knew that it wasn't so harsh for me to hear it out loud. I thiknk you are right when you say they become complacent. They must see so many things like this that they just get used to it. Doesn't make it ny easier for you the patient who this is all happening to though.
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