Hi,

DH and I have just gone through the highs of a first pregnancy & lows of a M/C at 10wks.

I feel that I have grieved & said goodbye and am now determined to start trying again as soon as possible. Conception of our first pregnancy occured very quickly for us; basically in the first cycle, so, am hoping that second time around we'll have the same luck.

Althought DH says that he is also ready to try again as soon as we can, I'm not sure he has fully grieved yet, there's been very little expression of emotions. DH was very excited & had already begun to clear out our spare room to make room for our baby. The only thing DH has said is that he feels bad that he played down when I first told him that i was experiencing some bleeding & cramps. Obviously, I told him that he was just being a supportive husband and trying to alleviate my worry & that he encouraged me to speak to our OB as soon as I could.


I'm just wondering how others DH & partners have reacted to a M/C loss. Should I probe him to speak about how he is feeling?

Another question, how soon after a D&C is it safe to DTD?

Thanks in advance,

TCM