Hi Everyone,

I am writing in the hope that someone... anyone can throw an extra idea or 10 my way.
I am currently loosing my 4th pregnancy since June this year.
I have a 12yr old son from a previous relationship, a trouble free pregnancy & birth.
Getting any "REAL" help from a doctor / specialist is proving to be a huge drama.

I demanded a referal to the Royal Womens from a local GP after my 3rd loss - Granted I was given it. The Royal Womens booked me into the Reproductive Services clinic, not the recurrent miscarriage clinic (perinatal) as requested. Never the les we attended our apointment in anticipation of what help it would offer (believeing perhaps my gp had the clinic name & the services it offered wrong, but the hospital read the details of my case & is really responsible for booking me into the wrongly suited clinic) & they have taken bloods from both my husband & I to have "genetic" testing done where they assure me we will likely find nothing "clinically" wrong anyway. Com back in 6 weeks & in the meantime, it's more than likely just bad luck! WOW if I had a dollar for everytime I heard that I could have $100 to spend on pregnancy tests every month!

When I found out I was pregnant again, I contacted the hospital -Whom informed me, my doctor was on leave & I had to go to a gp AGAIN & get another referal to the prinatal clinic stating that my case was of urgency & I needed an appointment. Even though a doctor that works along side mine made the suggestion?!? & I am patient of the hospital.

So I sucked it up, did all that now the real drama begins!

My hcg has dropped to 8 over the last 72 hours, miscarrying again is inevitable. Again, I call the hospital as my doctor in Repo services said he wants me to have a curette in the event that I do miscarry again. I speak to the perinatal clinic & explain the situation who says they will transfer me to Emergency & I should inform them so that they know to expect me in the next couple of days. They take my Jan 7th appointment off me & give me one in MARCH as I am miscarrying & my referal marked as URGENT is now useless to me because I'm not pregnant! When I should have been booked in there with my original referal sent in October anyways, not repo. services!

I speak to emergency who inform me that there wont be enough tissues to test from a curette due to miscarrying so early & sorry... Best of luck! ****!

My first 2 losses were @ 5 weeks, second at 4w 1d & I am 17dpo today & wil no doubt start to bleed within the next couple of days, making this also an almost 5 wk loss.

Can ANYONE recommend a doctor or specialist that takes care of Recurrnet Miscarriage cases?!? I dont care where, or how, or the cost or the effort required. I don't demand answers, sometimes there are none, but I want a plan of attack, someone that will help us & someone that is capable of managing our case.

I'm can't believe I am constantly self diagnosing, arranging my own referals & even getting contact details for gp's who know nothing! I am my own advocate at the moment... Lucky my desire to compete our family is over shadowed by the careless efforts of others & I'm more determined than ever to make this work.

I would have loved to be able to spend a little quiet time greiving & rebuilding my strength to start climbing the TTC mountain again, rather than doing everyone elses jobs for them! But no such luck hey...

Thanks for thaking the time to read my ramble - Love & Best Wishes to you all