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[Inanna]

More hugs special woman...

I understand your fears about your age, I really do. Chromosomal abnormalities occur more frequently in women over 35 - this seems to be a reality. That does not mean all women over 35 will have a chromosomally challenged pregnancy. Try really really hard to remember that my love. I had 3 early miscarriages that I believe were likely to be due to a chromosomal abnormality. As you know I was 38 & 39 trying to conceive a baby. Yes, it ws a fear I held. I knew my choice would be to interrupt a pregnancy with a child with a chromosomal abnormality. The pain would have been immense. I had to work really really hard to abate those fears.

I am here if you need anything. All I can do now is send my love to you and your babies. I have thought of you often over these past few days. Know you will get through this and hold tight to your dream. This is a very painful hurdle, but you WILL hold another baby in your arms.

Lots of love and long squishy hugs...

[MeredithD]

Thanks ladies. Knowing someone else is at least listening to my babble is comforting.
Unfortunately, my run of "bad luck" just continues on. I think i am the 'rare complication" queen!
Had confirmation today with a scan that i have retained"products" (something i've known myself within a few days of the D&C). Enough in there that FS really thinks i'll need another D&C. However, she reffered me back to OB who wants to try medical treatment first
I'm not really happy with either option.
D&C - risks of damaging my girly bits,Ashermanns syndrome etc. Medical treatment - going to drag on at least another 5-7 days and no guarantee I still won't need a D&C.
I agreed on medical or rather couldn't be bothered fighting for anything else so getting prepared for a really cruddy w/e and back for scan Monday. Kind of expecting i'll be having yet another D&C on Tuesday.
I am just sooooo tired and over all of this. Really,really sick of being the rare complication patient.
I can't even have a "normal" miscarriage!!!

[Michelle71]

I know the *joy* of being the complication queen. Nothing I do is on the *normal* path either Hoping for a quick resolution for you.

[Janie]

Hope everything is going okay Meredith

[Inanna]

I too think we could share that coronation ie: Complication Queen... I am sorry this is still going on. I am thinking of you and hoping that you have had a weekend of that uterus doing a good job. Please keep us posted.d Thinking of you my love...

[satya]

Meredith, I'm so sorry that things are not improving for you. Please don't think that there's anything abnormal about the way this is progressing. Lots of women unfortunately retain product and have to have treatment for it. It's not as simple as other peoples experience of loss, but certainly not abnormal. I hope the medical treatment works for you so you can avoid the D&C as I would have the same fears about that as you do, but if it is necessary then unfortunately you will have to accept that this is just another part of your experience. Just remember that just because one egg has a chromosonal problem, it does not mean others will in the future.