Im brand new on this site but i just felt i needed to talk to someone who wasnt going to tell me 'its for the best", if i hear that one more time im going to lose it.
Well my story goes like this, i went for my 12 week scan Mon week ago and all was perfect, heartbeat of 174bpm and fully formed kicking baby. I then got my NT results back with my BT and i tested high risk for Trisomy 13 &18 so i was booked in the following Tues for a CVS but i was pretty confident. Well we arrived for the CVS Tues arvo and they proceeded to do an US first, i could see myself that baby wasnt moving and there was no flicker of the heart, the Dr then came in and told me my baby had died during the past week. Well since then my world has crashed and i just dont know what to do or where to turn. My DH really never wanted another child and i had to fight him tooth and nail for him to agree (which he did and was then happy when i fell, typical man!) So now im just so lost but as i already have kids i cant let anyone know as im suppose to be the strong one and feel terrible when my kids worry about me so i just keep solidering on each day.
When will i get back to my old self?????????????????????????????????????????????? ??????????
Becky, that is a terrible thing to happen.
There's no saying when you will get back to 'normal'. I think it's really important just to let yourself grieve and feel whatever you need to. Don't worry about being the strong one for now, you have a right to grieve for your baby.
I am so sorry this has happened to you, sometimes life is so unfair.
Oh Becky, I'm so so sorry hun.
I can't answer your question, but I learned very quickly that it was better for me if I didn't let people who weren't in my skin, dictate how I should feel.
becky - i'm so sorry for your loss hun. no matter what might have been, there is nothing to be gained from people telling you "its for the best" - THEY aren't going through this loss, it's not them that is hurting. you were pregnant with a child you very much wanted, and that was taken from you - you're ALLOWED to be angry - hell, you deserve to be supported through that anger and grief, not forces to soldier on.
you can rely on us here on BB to support you - take care of yourself hun
Becky, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I agree with other comments here, you are entitled to feel however you feel and no-one can tell you what that is 'meant' to be. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself the opprotunity to grieve for your little angel.
becky--I'm so, so sorry for your loss You will never hear "it's for the best" from anyone here at BB! Grief has no timeframe, you'll have your good days, and you'll have bad ones...don't allow yourself to just "soldier on", you need to yell and scream, cry and vent...or one day down the road you'll break down. Many of us here have found that friends and family just don't know what to say because they just can't comprehend what it feels like to have a living, breathing, moving child inside of them--only to have it taken away from them. Unfortunately we here at BB understand this all too well, we know your pain, the anguish, the questions, all the thoughts that just keep running through your mind...we will always support you here! You're in my thoughts and I wish you strength to get through these dark days! Big
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Becky, that is a terrible thing to happen.
You will never hear "it's for the best" from anyone here at BB! Grief has no timeframe, you'll have your good days, and you'll have bad ones...don't allow yourself to just "soldier on", you need to yell and scream, cry and vent...or one day down the road you'll break down. Many of us here have found that friends and family just don't know what to say because they just can't comprehend what it feels like to have a living, breathing, moving child inside of them--only to have it taken away from them. Unfortunately we here at BB understand this all too well, we know your pain, the anguish, the questions, all the thoughts that just keep running through your mind...we will always support you here! You're in my thoughts and
I wish you strength to get through these dark days! Big
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