Hugs sweety. Take time to heal and then re-assess your positon on TTC again. Unfortunately beautiful children are given to people who just do not get it!! These kids have a big responsibility to teach the ignorant about life and love...Some kids have a really hard job in their life's path and it isn't fair because people like us would open our arms and love them like they deserve to be.
mrzbaby i can relate to you I lost my baby nearly two weeks ago I was 16Weeks and 1 day .... not only the emotional stuff we are feeling but also the feeling of emptyness I think only we can feel that and its so hard to explain.....!
Plus not to mention my brother in law and his wife are expecting they are due two weeks after i was meant to be as well as all my friends .... this is so so hard ..... why me I ask???? I wish things were different. Last time I lost my first bub it was at 8.5 weeks this time once I hit 12 weeks I thought everything was goignt to be ok but I was wrong.
I hope it all gets better , so days im strong but then things happen around me that put me really down ....
We need to be strong and believe that they are our guardian angels and will look over us no matter what and that hopefully one day soon it will also be our turn!!!!
So very sorry for the loss of your precious baby. I felt exactly the same as you about TTC after we lost Emmanuel, I know how scary it is and the fear of losing again. We did go on to have a beautiful healthy girl, you can do it too. Take time to grieve any way you know how.
Take care.
EM- I know exactly how you feel. DH, DD and I went for our 12w scan and discovered the baby did not grow past 8w. I was so upset and went through the same heartache as you. After we had the news I went to see a midwife who explained what would happen next. While I was waiting in her office, I could hear a lady in the other room on the fetal heart monitor talking about the little S*** inside her. It made me cry even more.
It has been 4 weeks now since I found out the terrible news. I understand now that there was something wrong with the development of the baby and this is just natures way.
Your doctor is right, the chances of it happening again are very slim. You may feel you don't want to try again, but it is still so soon after your loss. It may take you 1 month to want to try again but it may also take you 6 months to try again. There is no time restrictions, you just try again when you both feel comfortable.
I really encourage you to stay with Belly Belly. It helped me enormously, whether I decided to post or just read. I have also stck with my friends in our belly budies group. I developed great friendships with these ladies and wasn't about to loose them now!
Keep your chin up, you are a woman and will get through this in your own time. Now we both have little munchkins looking down on us.
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