mel, what a wonderful friend you are. i am 3 months on after loosing my little girl at 2 1/2 weeks old. i guess all i can say from my experience is to be there for her but understand if she doesnt want you there - its so hard to take on everyone's grief as well. i know i felt like i had to comfort everyone else .. but when she's ready, talk about her child by name, it does help to know that they weren't just a dream.
What a terrible thing for your friend to have to go thru. And you are a wonderful friend for being there. Someone suggested getting ideas from a support network (Bonnie Babes or SIDS or something) - I think that is a fantastic idea. Their counsellors are trained to deal with these scenarios and their tools maybe just the thing your friend needs to cope whilst she battles her way thru.
And don't forget, there is lots of support and help here - but you already know that, right?
all i can say is am so sorry for her loss but i think you are a truely wonderful person to be trying to support her at such a difficult time. Make sure you take some time out also as it will impact on you strongly as her friend .:hugs:
Mel i wish i could find some words that might make some sort of sense of this tragedy but to tell you the truth, i have nothing, i feel totally empty when i read of things happening like this. I cant begin to understand the grief the mother must be feeling, and you as a friend, trying to be strong but emotionally wrecked inside as well. I think you are the true meaning of friendship, and i wish everyone had a friend like you.
please take care of yourself and the poor family going through this terrible tragedy.
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