mel, what a wonderful friend you are. i am 3 months on after loosing my little girl at 2 1/2 weeks old. i guess all i can say from my experience is to be there for her but understand if she doesnt want you there - its so hard to take on everyone's grief as well. i know i felt like i had to comfort everyone else .. but when she's ready, talk about her child by name, it does help to know that they weren't just a dream.