What a terrible thing for your friend to have to go thru. And you are a wonderful friend for being there. Someone suggested getting ideas from a support network (Bonnie Babes or SIDS or something) - I think that is a fantastic idea. Their counsellors are trained to deal with these scenarios and their tools maybe just the thing your friend needs to cope whilst she battles her way thru.

And don't forget, there is lots of support and help here - but you already know that, right?