I am new to this forum as we lost our little boy 4 weeks ago. Zacahry was born on 24th July at 6.34am. He weighed 7lb 1oz (3.2kg).He never got to take a breath and we are devestated by the event. It was so unexpected and we were not prepared for anything like this to happen at 35 weeks! I just don't know how to get through each day. I feel like I am at the bottom of a pit that I can't get out of.
I am so sorry for the loss of your gorgeous boy. I wish I could offer you some words to make it easier.
Unfortunately, I have also lost a son under similar circumstances. It is heartbreaking and such a difficult thing to go through. Believe it or not, it will become less overwhelming with time. It is very difficult, particularly in the early days but I can honestly say that things do get easier.
Take care of yourself. Try to eat well and sleep when you can - sleep is essential for coping. Seek further support if you need it. Hop on here to voice your thoughts and concerns - you will find many women who will understand.
I send you a BIG hug.
I have such a lump in my throat and tear in my eye reading your post.
What a terrible and unfair thing to have happen.
I don't really know what to say except that I am thinking of you - as it seems are many others here. I imagine that the world has stopped for you at the moment, I am taking a little time off now to think of you and your little boy too.
I am so sorry. words just aren't enough. We're so conditioned to think a healthy baby is a "given"...even if you were "high risk", as I was....you just don't allow your mind to process what that means. no promises, a hope, but nothing for certain. I too am still struggling, so I surely don't know the right words to make your day easier, but please know there are people who care and would love to help you if possible.
I hope you have a picture or foot prints or something that you can hold/look at to find comfort. The hospital gave me these and although I can't deal with the pictures yet, i love to look at and hold his footprints. If not this, maybe there is some object that reminds you of your baby that can bring you some comfort.
I can not even begin to imagine the pain you must be going through right now but I just wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts.
Please look after yourself.
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful little boy.
Zachary's mum - I am so sorry for your devastating loss, no words will ever help your pain but just know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Just go with how you are feeling, no emotion is right or wrong, and as one of the other ladies has said keep your strength up by eating well and look after yourself as much as you feel you can. I know your feelings all too well, in February of 2007 my daughter Phoebe was stillborn and I honestly didn't know where to turn, I was so thankful for my partner and my family but I just felt nobody really understood,...until I found this website, other than my partner and family this and the women here are what have kept me going, its the first place I would come to speak of how I was feeling and the first place I came when I felt I wanted to try again, there are women here who will understand, so I truly hope that they can be such a support to you.
I have only stumbled across your story now and juat wanted to send you lost of hugs. I am so very sorry for your loss. I sincerely hope that 2010 brings healing to you and your family. I hope you have found and continue to find lots of support in real life and on BB. You are in my thoughts.
Lots of love, Sasa
I just noticed that I misread the date on your first post. i though you had lost Zachary last year. And I saw that you have since welcomed Zachary's little brother into your family. I am so glad you have a little boy to give all that love to, that you have to give. I am sure Zachary is watching him and protecting him as a big brother should.
Last edited by sunshine_sieben; February 2nd, 2010 at 10:16 AM.
Hi Sasa
Thanks for your thoughts. Our little Zarian is wonderful but Zachary will always be in my heart and in my thoughts. I still miss him terribly. I haven't been on here for a while so I need to do some catching up. Do you mind sharing your story with me?
I have not lost a child, so I can't even start to imagine the loss you feel. I stumbled across your story while browsing through Belly Belly.
I saw you're on the Gold Coast, too!
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I hope you find comfort and support amongst the BellyBelly community.
Look after yourself and I am sending you lots of strength to get through this very hard time in your life
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