Thanks Mrzbaby, that info is really helpful I've called the Autism Advisory Program hotline and left a message, they should call me back tomorrow. Its still all a bit over my head but the info you provided helped to clear a few things up. I don't think the report the pead gave is going to count as a diagnosis. He said himself that it was his 'opinion' and not a formal diagnosis so i guess i need to get the diagnosis before i can think about funding *sigh* so it sounds like i'm back to square one. I called ASPECT and left a message with the diagnostic departement, i want to know how long the waiting list etc etc because if its really long it might be worth taking Ethie to another place like Minds and Hearts.. thanks for that Mrzbaby i might have a google and see what i can find out about it. We've only just started on this journey and already i'm exhausted. I am thinking that it might be easier to get a diagnosis from ASPECT or Minds and Hearts or one of those organisations because it sounds like to get a diagnosis through peads, psychologists etc etc takes a long time and causes lots of frustration.
We're hopefully moving to Coffs Harbour soon (hubby has a job interview tomorrow, fingers crossed) because we've decided there is more support there for Ethan. I think once we settle in there i will get the ball rolling as far as getting a formal diagnosis.

Thanks for the advice everyone, i really appreciate it