For school aged children:
another good place to go is Welcome to Positive Partnerships Online Learning Portal
They have an online learning portal you can register to use ( upper righthand corner in green writing - Click there as a new user )

it is aimed at school aged children but I found it helpful for both... and it is free!!!

AFM: I don't live near a large city so I find any piece of info helpful. I am lucky that we do have resources here where I live but like many the spaces are limited and waiting lists long.
The thing that furstrates me the most is that not one professional had chosen to inform me about what my child was entitled to through this program I mentioned above. Many Professionals assume you have the knowledge ( they don't mean to but I think they just assume ) for me it was ears to the ground that I discovered this program.

As Christy said ( I tried to mamke it clear in the originaly post ) you do have to have a diagnosis for some this is very hard.

When my son was diagnosed. we had the disgnosis and that was it. No help or intervention was offered it was like ' congrats your son has blah blah' ( this was no ones fault including the Dr who diagnosed but again the system i guesss you could say assumed I knew where to go.... I walked away with my letter had no idea what it even was and had to try to start finding where to go for my child to get the extra support he needed. Apart from the diagnosis being mind blowing the mental strain trying to find support was even more so.

As I said I am no expert and far from it but if I can be a vehicle of information to help others and their famillies I am more than happy to...
Em