We had a follow up appointment with Ethan's Paed. yesterday.... turns out Ethan's IgM levels are low So my poor little guy has to have another blood test to recheck it... I'm FREAKING out, when he had the last blood test it was HORRIBLE. My poor hubby had to take him and physically hold him while they jabbed his little arms and because his little veins are so tiny they had to jab him like 5 times. He was so traumatised, by the time they got home from the appointment my poor hubby was as white as a ghost from such a horrendous experience and my poor little Ethan was so shook up he wouldn't even let us take the bandaids off his arms because he thought we were going to hurt him and now we have to do it all again.
I was even tempted to just not get it re checked to save Ethan from the pain but i'm a bit worried about his IgM level...i googled low IgM it and lots of scary things like lukemia and cancer comes up...very frightening. His Dr. thinks its probably just a mistake since he looks well and hasn't been sick but i'm still a little freaked out that it could be more. Hubby is going to take Ethan for the blood test next week. I just want it done so i know he's ok.
I don't know whether to tell ethan about the blood test though... i thought i might wait until the last minute to tell him but i know all the bad memories from last time will come flooding back and he'll probably freak out.. but i don't want to spring it on him either... either way i know its going to be horrible
Ohh, when is the test? It's hard to know how to approach it. Do chupa chups work at your place?
Well it looks like Mitch isn't really ready for school. Not socially anyway . He has hit three kids since he started last week. He got angry and territorial of toys at kinder but never hit anyone.
Popped one kid right on the nose just as I got there....now he is known as the bully. I'm really shattered. I LOVE the way these things are addressed at the school and I was hoping he would catch on quickly....but he just goes nuts if things aren't his way, and if there is no one close enough to cool him down .
His teacher wants him to stay on transitional hours till after March, so I will pick him up when lunchtime starts (12.30) for another 6 weeks.
I don't know how I am supposed get back to work, I am struggling terribly with finances and have held on till he gets to school and now this.
Getting an appointment with a Paed and hopefully into the asd center in the next three months.
Academically he is waaaay ready to go.....I'm just sad to think this is going to be him for the rest of his life. He makes friends but pretty soon after they see a meltdown they get scared off. Will he ever have a best buddy or a little gang of friends???
awwww Lulu that is so heartbreaking... IKWYM. Often when M has her own meltdown, she loses friends who don't want to play with her in fear of it happening again. Luckily it hasn't happened at school, but some of the kids see it when they come home with us. We've had to deal with it a lot in the meantime... losing friends who don't want to be around the meltdowns.
Sanks hun. I've just made an appt for a Paed and got in 6 weeks from now! I would have to wait till June otherwise.....this one specialises in spectrum stuff and was recommended by the head of the asd centre. Gotta love having a mum in the business, she rung the asd bloke direct and had a lovely chat....
Lulu, my little SN boy has been hitting kids in the payground too (the one in my class) I have found that its because the other kids are "pushing his buttons" and driving him to it. I have talked to his mum and the librarian and arranged that he either plays with a special friend (a yr1 boy who has ASD and who he plays well with) or if he feels the playground is too much he takes himself up to the library for some time out. I also have a couple of trusted older kids (my DD is one) who will go to his aid if he is having trouble or fighting and steer him away by reminding him "hands down, no touching at school, lets walk away"
Today I was nearly going to commit a violent crime when i was on duty, there's my poor darling T with a circle of Yr2 boys around him taunting him so of course he hit them. I was furious and went off at them and told them to keep away from T and not to go near him again.
I wouldn't mind betting a lot of poor Mitch's problems are the other kids, I have seen it happen, theres a certain kind of child who gets off on manipulating until the poor other kid has a meltdown and loses it.
Sorry vent over, I am just so peeed off that this little boy in my class is doing such an awesome job of fitting into school and its the playground thats causing us grief.
You've half hit the nail on the head mrsmac. Last year at a birthday party I noticed this happening (bloody lord of the flies) and all of a sudden it hit me that this is very likely going to happen at school. One of the other mums mentioned one of the instigators has an older brother so he is pretty arrogant because of this. Some kids do notice a 'weakness' and will push buttons at every opportunity to watch the fireworks.
So I changed schools very late in the year to this tiny little one (80 students) with a philosophy that can't be beat.
the incidents do happen at lunchtimes - the kids are allowed in the classrooms to play, they wander in and out. It always happens if someone dares go near anything Mitch might decide he wants to play with. Today he put a block down and another child picked it up - whammo in the face for poor little Ben.
We took Ben to sick bay and sat them both down and Ben had the chance to explain what happened and Mitch too. Clearly poor Ben didn't know Mitch wasn't finished with the block...it gave Mitch some understanding that it isn't a worldwide block conspiracy and also that Ben doesn't want to play with him in case he gets hurt again.
Hair trigger temper and has problems regulating his emotions. If someone isn't there at all times to put out potential fires and this is the result
*nods head* Jovie even does it to her big sister.... and we get the hair pulling tumbling girl fights over it.
You know Lu, when M was at Montessori, I loved it, but it was the playground issues that left a bad taste in my mouth. The girls would pick on Matilda. I still remember the screaming meltdowns over the fact that I didn't wear skirts.... I remember her laying in the bathroom screaming and vomitting and it took 3 hours to calm her down (the meltdown started when I picked her up) and it was all due to a girl telling her that "girls wear skirts, if you aren't wearing a skirt, you aren't a girl". Matilda hated skirts until that day. And now its an issue getting her to not wear skirts...
So my poor little guy has to have another blood test to recheck it... I'm FREAKING out, when he had the last blood test it was HORRIBLE. My poor hubby had to take him and physically hold him while they jabbed his little arms
and because his little veins are so tiny they had to jab him like 5 times. He was so traumatised, by the time they got home from the appointment my poor hubby was as white as a ghost from such a horrendous experience and my poor little Ethan was so shook up he wouldn't even let us take the bandaids off his arms because he thought we were going to hurt him
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