Whoa Kel that is a hard one. As a mother I would say that it isn't fair to expect you to TT him without being willing to do it at home as well.

My daughter didn't eat, sleep or toilet at all when she was in a centre. It was all too much for her, way too stimulating. She also didn't talk much while she was there. Sometimes some of the best centres are not the right places for these kids. We didn't know what we know now and I don't think I would have even attempted it.

Is there somewhere like the office he can go with the lights low or off and put headphones on him with a DS or something like that to "take him away" from what is going on around him? Sometimes MP3 players with blockout headphones are a good break for these kids who have difficulties hearing more than one thing at a time. The less stimulating, the more relaxed he will be.

Some of these super kids have intense focus on one thing, find that thing and use it to reward him for sleeping or resting, eating etc etc... it maybe something that the other kids aren't allowed to do at the centre, but it maybe what gets him through?

Matilda's DS is our lifesaver in places of stress for her, she can escape into her DS with her headphones on in a dark corner (or we make a cubby under a table or something for her) in order to destimulate and focus.

HTH!