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awwww Lulu that is so heartbreaking... IKWYM. Often when M has her own meltdown, she loses friends who don't want to play with her in fear of it happening again. Luckily it hasn't happened at school, but some of the kids see it when they come home with us. We've had to deal with it a lot in the meantime... losing friends who don't want to be around the meltdowns.
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Sanks hun. I've just made an appt for a Paed and got in 6 weeks from now! I would have to wait till June otherwise.....this one specialises in spectrum stuff and was recommended by the head of the asd centre. Gotta love having a mum in the business, she rung the asd bloke direct and had a lovely chat....
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Lulu, my little SN boy has been hitting kids in the payground too (the one in my class) I have found that its because the other kids are "pushing his buttons" and driving him to it. I have talked to his mum and the librarian and arranged that he either plays with a special friend (a yr1 boy who has ASD and who he plays well with) or if he feels the playground is too much he takes himself up to the library for some time out. I also have a couple of trusted older kids (my DD is one) who will go to his aid if he is having trouble or fighting and steer him away by reminding him "hands down, no touching at school, lets walk away"
Today I was nearly going to commit a violent crime when i was on duty, there's my poor darling T with a circle of Yr2 boys around him taunting him so of course he hit them. I was furious and went off at them and told them to keep away from T and not to go near him again.
I wouldn't mind betting a lot of poor Mitch's problems are the other kids, I have seen it happen, theres a certain kind of child who gets off on manipulating until the poor other kid has a meltdown and loses it.
Sorry vent over, I am just so peeed off that this little boy in my class is doing such an awesome job of fitting into school and its the playground thats causing us grief.
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You've half hit the nail on the head mrsmac. Last year at a birthday party I noticed this happening (bloody lord of the flies) and all of a sudden it hit me that this is very likely going to happen at school. One of the other mums mentioned one of the instigators has an older brother so he is pretty arrogant because of this. Some kids do notice a 'weakness' and will push buttons at every opportunity to watch the fireworks.
So I changed schools very late in the year to this tiny little one (80 students) with a philosophy that can't be beat.
the incidents do happen at lunchtimes - the kids are allowed in the classrooms to play, they wander in and out. It always happens if someone dares go near anything Mitch might decide he wants to play with. Today he put a block down and another child picked it up - whammo in the face for poor little Ben.
We took Ben to sick bay and sat them both down and Ben had the chance to explain what happened and Mitch too. Clearly poor Ben didn't know Mitch wasn't finished with the block...it gave Mitch some understanding that it isn't a worldwide block conspiracy and also that Ben doesn't want to play with him in case he gets hurt again.
Hair trigger temper and has problems regulating his emotions. If someone isn't there at all times to put out potential fires and this is the result
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*nods head* Jovie even does it to her big sister.... and we get the hair pulling tumbling girl fights over it.
You know Lu, when M was at Montessori, I loved it, but it was the playground issues that left a bad taste in my mouth. The girls would pick on Matilda. I still remember the screaming meltdowns over the fact that I didn't wear skirts.... I remember her laying in the bathroom screaming and vomitting and it took 3 hours to calm her down (the meltdown started when I picked her up) and it was all due to a girl telling her that "girls wear skirts, if you aren't wearing a skirt, you aren't a girl". Matilda hated skirts until that day. And now its an issue getting her to not wear skirts...
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Hi all I just had to pop in to write as i am still buzzing from a great meet the teacher night at school.
Hamish is in his second year of school this year and last year wasn't our best. I had spoke to his teacher about the possibility of Aspergers and was blow off, then all the things i pointed out to her he was punished for, arghhhhhhhhhhh very frustrating year.
Anyhow I went in and told his teacher earlier in the week that Hamish was going in to start his assessments for Aspergers, she was very understanding and great. Tonight she told me Hamish had a melt down in class over his pencils today. In his last class they had a pot of their own, this year he is meant to share with the girl sitting next to him. Well apparently he just couldn't deal with it, it was out of his control and he didn't like it, he didn't like her sharpening the pencils when he felt they didn't need it etc... anyhow the teacher assured me it wasn't a sharing issue as he shares other things, this was him not being able to hand control over to someone else, anyhow he now has his own pot of pencils again.
She also told me about how he takes everything literally , she said to write your name in big writing so he wrote in capitals really big
We had a great chat and he has shed a few tears as he is trying to settle into a new routine and a different class and students. The big bonus is his teachers mother is currently studying a masters degree in education for children with autism/aspergers and I know heryeah it looks like Hamish has a teacher who finally gets us.
sorry i feel so excited for my little man
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SQUUUUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! Oh that's FANTASTIC Tan! Doesn't it make a difference to the way you feel? I'm really happy for you!
We had a great chat and he has shed a few tears as he is trying to settle into a new routine and a different class and students. The big bonus is his teachers mother is currently studying a masters degree in education for children with autism/aspergers and I know her
sorry i feel so excited for my little man
A slightly better day at school today. No hittingApparently he had a meltdown because he didn't win a game. A different teacher held the class for it - she told me screamed and cried that he was a loser and crap and never wins anything - and that it was heartbreaking "where does he get this stuff from?"
My hackles went up a bit so I explained that he can take a throw off comment from his older sister (17) and take it literally (she wouldn't have said it to him though) , that he gets very anxious that he can't do everything perfectly.
She agreed he seemed very black and white and may not be ready for school at all. Grrrr. I felt I had to explain how well he did at Kinder, we were all sure he was ready for school and I was sad and surprised at how he has been coping. That he has been seeing an OT and I wasn't sure about going ahead with a aspy dx yet.
I've sent an email to his teacher (she asked me to let me know how I handle his meltdowns so she could reinforce it at school. Love her), and now I've included more background and that I am well aware of his quirks and stresses. I just felt like this other teacher thought I had no ideaAlthough she seemed satisfied that I have a handle on it after I finished explaining.....
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