Sally!!!
have 3 main concerns for Brendan right now. 1) his ears, it's infection after infection atm and we are still yet to hear from the ENT about an appointment. 2) his weight and bowels, he has been the same weight for 12 months now and has never really had a firm poo (sorry for the tmi) I am under the impression that he has some kind of intolerance, but again the Dr here has said the paed is the best person to talk to, which is not till May. And 3) School.. I'm concerned that because he is already well behind his peers, he is going to be left further behind. And I realise that school is not for another year, and a lot can happen between now and then, but enrolments are in Aug!
I nearly dropped to the floor when I read that....

Matilda did not gain weight between 12mths and 24 months. She lost some weight before that as well. She did not do a formed poo until she was over 3 years old. At 3 yrs old, she was diagnosed with a cow milk protein allergy, and we went off all milk in our diets and... a month later she started doing normal poos and gaining weight. Maybe while you wait try to go off milk? See if that helps, at least drinking milk... Cook milk can change some proteins not all, but that often is all that you need to do. It can't hurt!!!
Thanks Christy! You actually got me thinking... Brendan had gastro end of May last year and lost just over a kilo in about 3 days. Two weeks later he had another bout of gastro and lost another kilo, but in that 2 weeks in between Brendan gained back most of the first kilo, so at the end he was only about 1.5kg down in the month. BUT he was taken off milk in that month and for about 2 weeks after and while he never had the formed poo, he did re-gain his lost weight. Then at around Aug he had another bout of gastro which saw him loose close to a kilo again, same thing happened came off milk and re-gained weight. Dec another bout and same thing happened... except he was put onto lactose free milk for 8 weeks following the clearing up of the gastro. I don't know how this wasn't put together sooner! Now to take out all milk... fun fun. Does the protein go through into powdered milk? He only has milk first thing in the morning now, and he doesn't really drink much of that anyway.

In regards to toilet training, we are taking it easy. We've found there is no use forcing the issue with him because that always leads to him going backwards. Brendan will go to the toilet, but it has to be on his terms, no one is allowed to be there with him he does it totally alone.

We've been meltdown free for about 5 weeks now, but in that time we've started a weekly group speech session and recently joined a kinder gym too. Brendan has also been ear infection free for about 3 weeks, so yay for that too!