The first paed we saw was useless - and it was a very short appt - but he referred us to the other guy, who seems good, but I haven't heard back from him yet. Probably a busy man. He thought she had elements of aspergers and oppositional defiance whatsit but wanted us to do an educational assessment as he thought some of her 'problems' were to do with being gifted and wanted an IQ test etc. The midwife I have visiting said the second fellow is really good. She had a look in DD#1's room while she was there and boggled at her castle - it is this massive lego thing, and all the pieces have been meticulously sorted by shape and colour lol

Must be a bit better having one parent who is on the spectrum, even slightly, because you'd have more of a chance of seeing things their way. Self and partner are definitely not on the spectrum, but in hindsight my ex is seriously on the spectrum but has never been assessed. He's beyond weird. What little contact I have with him (and it is *very* little contact) is irritatingly frustrating, repetitive, nitpicky, verbose and generally is *exactly* like trying to talk to her, except she's a child and he's supposed to be an adult. I broke up with him in 2000 (yes, I realise she was born in 2001) and he only started getting access when she was about 3 so its nature, not nurture that gives them both the same quirks.