Matilda has to be first as well. She kicks and hits the other children if they get in front of the queue to get into her classroom. Her teacher said to me a few weeks ago that it is very important for Matilda, sometimes she stops playing when she sees the teacher walk outside with the bell to run to the classroom. Sometimes she stops playing 20 minutes or so early in order to stand at the door to be first.
We had the same **** with Wilhelm.
The teacher and I stratagiesed together to start a 'school rules' and a 'home rules' thing.
So the school rules are we dont touch ANYONE, kicking is not one the school rules ect.
Home rules - keep your hands to yourself or I WILL DO TO YOU as YOU do to ME. As hard and horrible as it sounds....if Wlhelm hits or kicks us...we did it back. It only took 2 go's and he hated it. Now he tell's us hands to your self.
We also have to be firm, if its a no answer to anything...then its no, even with crying and carry on. 3 warning and then its time out.

OH OH I went to a Richard someone seminar years ago and he said that kids on the spectrum need a 'cave' were they can pick them selves up after meltdowns ect. Soooo we bought an egg chari from Ikea, its the chair that has a roof thing that pull's down and he can block everything around him. We use it successfully. To start with Wilhelm was in it 2 - 3 times a day and now we're lucky to use it once a week.

Barbie - im gonna have ot use that line next time. I butted heads with Wilhelms teacher so many times this year...until she finally understood him for HIM. Love that your son found a friend so easily...it makes your heart melt doesnt it.

Thats what I love about our kids...they dont see colour, age, disabilities as a barrier...they see the person within and respect them for who they are not what they are.

Fiona - Ive already told you what I think....in all honesty the longer you leave it the harder it is going to be to get the help he needs. the younger children on the spectrum are the better it is because its like having to reprogram a computer in a sence. Your doing a fab job matie...having a child with anxiety is one thing..but a hubby I take my hat off toyou woman. iN the mean time...write everything down...it may not look good on paper but it hits home and helps when you go to meetings ect.

Tan - yourve done the first thing so many of us are worried to do....admit something is not quiet right with our child. Raven is spot on with what she said. I took a different approach as Wilhlem as 2 when I begged for help. I went to my doctor who said he was normal and in the end I went to our MCHN who listened to me and watched and got the ball rolling. She told me what I had to do and go tme in touch with Hume services who are a government department that help mums and bubs like ours. Its in association with DOCS somehow..dotn ask me just glad DOCS is doing good for us . Let us know how you go and make sure if you need to down load...come in here.

We have had a break through!!!! I listen to you beautiful woman's in here and changed Wilhelm's milk to Soy. I got the chocolate flavoured one for school and jsut a normal soy for WIhelm and ****, he is calmer, likes going to school much better. I expected a big melt down as his teacher left last friday but he was cool with it. Totally amazed me. So thankyou so much for the advice girls.

I really am getting alot from this thread...its so much easier to talk to others who are having 'issues' with their Super hero kids and can nod in agreement and simpathy with you all.

Thank you all for making me and Wilhelm feel 'normal'