Mel honey...yourve taken the hardest step to take....your reaching out and asking for help hon. that in its self is an indication from you that you know and feel something isnt the 'norm'.

Please dont think that the 'label' word is as horrible as people make you believe (or yourself ;0 ) I personally was so scared of the 'label' and thought it would put wall's up around Wilhelm and us as a family but if anything honey...its helped push wall's down and make beautiful pathways to greener fields for Wilhelm to play in.

Yes, its been hard as a mother to realise that my child isn't like other chldren, but then I look at the other side of the coin and think, my child is unique, he's an individual and there will never be another one of him. He has taught me so many things about the was I see the world and other's around us. I use to be an agressive, negetive person and I feel that Wilhelm has made me see things in a brighter more positive light. Yes times are hard and things are different to other children's lives but I dont think I could know WIlhelm any other way.

My advice in regards of getting the testing...between now and when you go, get an exercise book and write down his little traits and do hickies......dont read it for a while...just keep writing in it and when you go for your appointment take it with you.

I will warn you..honey...and please dont think that the do's and accessores are doing it to be horrible but the diagnosise is always worst case senario. They always base what your child would do at his worst. It seems belittling and degrading at the time and be prepared to cry (I howled like a biartch) but if it allows the help to be there for your child...do it hon because ever bit of early education and help really does help.

I was once given the best advise that I thought at the time was jsut plain stupid...I was told in order to move on and be there for my guy that I should sit and finally grieve the child that he never was. Its very hard to take in that something is wrong with our children and its the most natural thing as a mother to blame our selves. Its also natural to feel like we have lost the child that was completely normal but quirky in our eyes after a diagnosise. All off a sudden we have a child with Autisum/aspergers ect..a completely new ball game. So please honey...allow your self to grieve and heal to make the future brighter.

I wish I could give you a hug...or even just share a cuppa with you about this. Its so hard to put tears and a heavy heart on the screen.