Thank you Maz. And Christy. And Raven. I will call the hossy on Monday and see what they say. Maz, I did do a list of sorts a while ago to sort out in my head what to tell them about if we got an appointment. But when I saw it all written down it scared me. I think I might ask the lady if I can fax it to her. Let them decide whether to escalate or not. But I'll talk to her as well. She was really lovely on the phone last time.

Christy, I think that's why J gets along so well with the trouble maker at day care. I think J senses that he is "different" too, and responds to it. My friend was saying that in primary school, her autistic son was the only person who could relate to a child with ADHD. So much so that the teachers would ask him to calm the ADHD boy down when he was upset - and it worked every time. That must be so good for you to see M playing so happily with other kids. Mind you, she's always been really great playing with J too. And J with her. (I'm not reading anything into that BTW!). Actually M has played really well most of the time I've seen her. She really is a great kid.