Hi Jo
We all know exactly how you are feeling, this forum is really good and we have found it such a great help. Our little boy went into a harness on the 27th December when he was 8 weeks old and like Hailey he used to cry every hour during the night at first, it was as though every time he was trying to move his legs he was getting really upset and frustrated. We too found it so hard and would have given anything to take the pain and frustration away from our little boy, there is nothing anything can say that will help you to feel better at the minute but I promise it does get better and easier. Harrison is back to his normal self now and it's true what all the other mums say the kids really do adjust so well. The original harness gave Harrison a rash so they put him into an Aberdeen harness which is so much better and as soon as he went into this we saw a change. If Hailey really doesn't settle in the harness and you don't feel that she is adjusting then I think it is worth going back to the hospital and telling them this as this is what we did and they changed the harness.
Both of my hips were dislocated and this was discovered when I was 14 months old. Back in those days all kids went into a plaster so I had a plaster on for 6 weeks then different braces for another 18 months -I can't remember a thing and I'm absolutely fine now. This is what I keep telling myself about Harrison - he wont remember a thing and in the long run this is all for the best so that he doesn't have problems when he is older. Hopefully Hailey wont need a plaster, I think from what we have been told most babies react well to harnesses and only tend to need plaster casts following surgery - our consultant has said that Harrison will be reviewed when he is a year old and at this point we will find out if he needs surgery.

Best of luck with everything and as I said earlier this forum is great and everyone is such a great help so any questions you have are definitley worth asking as I'm sure someone will have come across the same questions before.

Take care,

Laura.