ATTA GIRL - don't be silly, if it's a glass of wine you need (or three), go for it.

Let her scream like she is being murdered. It might help calm her down, or get some of the energy out. One thing - I NEVER withdraw the physical activities as punishments because you end up punishing yourself, maybe lose a toy instead?
It doesnt bother her when she looses a toy coz she destroys them anyway, I feel bad for punishing her full stop its like im just making her more angry when she cant help it in the 1st place.
Im at a loss im finding it hard to deal with I thought it was all gonna be ok coz its not like I havnt known there is something there all these years but now i have something to go buy I am just lost