Kelly - It's good they've worked this out now and there's a plan of action for you and Marisa. Maybe as you say, you're with Marisa all the time so you've seen her responses more than John has which is why he doesn't seem particularly worried about it. He also probably doesn't want to worry you much more by getting upset about it either. Good luck with everything and I hope you find a lovely psychologist ... I'm sure you will.