It depends to me. SIL was so angry at us when she recently found out her little one that's due in August is a girl. They had planned to use Sophie if they had a daughter but we got in first. We didn't know but we are still at fault and she gets quite mad that we "stole her name and ruined it". Admittedly if she were to use it I would cut ties but purely because my DD has no future just a name and I hate to hear another child I regularly would see with it. ITMS.