Thank you so much everyone for your opinions!

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks Jack John sounds plain ol weird! Benjamin (which yep Lisa we would go Benjamin, just use Ben as a nn) John & Xavier John just sound so much nicer. I love them both equally, but yeah I think DP has gone off Benjamin sadly.

I spoke to DP about Xavier again, and asked him exactly why he isnt sure on it anymore when before we had even found out what bubs was he had suggested it and raved for weeks and weeks about how much he loves it. And that he still says how much he loves it so I dont understand why he wasnt sure. He's worried that people will say to us "Oh you named him the same as your friends little boy." Yet when I asked exactly WHO would say that, he couldn't think of anyone.
Nobody else on his side of the family interacts with his mate or anything, they only hear about him in passing. And nobody on my side of the family know him at all LOL.
And honestly who cares if someone did say that. If we choose it, it certainly wasnt because of this friends little boy. It was pure coiencendce that he had the name we had loved the moment we got our BFP.

It may just be a case of waiting until bubs is born and "seeing" what he looks like.


Again thank you all so much for your input, you have all been so helpful