Before our DD was born Dh was fixated on Madeleine. I had liked it at the beginning, but by the end of pregnancy had decided against it - because SIL would have made it maddy, and that really put me off. I liked Elanor. The day she was born, he looked at her, and said "hello Elanor"...so maybe plant a seed with an alternate first name, and see what happens.

That said Emily Joy is a lovely name.