Ok well, we are having dd3 and are completely stumped on names! The only name we like and could quite possibly agree on is Jennifer. We both love it...theres just one problem.....

DHs grandmother had a still born baby about 50 odd years ago. She was named Jennifer. There is a headstone and ashes.

Dh says it would be weird and not right to name our daughter that name. He finds it uncomfortable to talk about.

I have spoken to his grandma on several occassions about the baby they named Jennifer. She is quite open about it and appears not to be uncomfortable.

Chances are because I respect my dh wishes we wont be calling this one Jennifer. However, I was just wondering what your thoughts would be on the matter. I have asked dh is I could talk to his grandparents about it and see if they think its ok, but its a no. He thinks it would be weird to have that same name in a family and also the fact that our baby could see the headstone, etc.... I think that there are many families who name their children after other people in the family that pass on. I do respect that this was a child who was born still but I think if we bring it up with the grandparents and ask, then there shouldnt be any issues. If they said yes, then we would also talk to dhs dad and uncles about it so they would know too.

Any thoughts?