My DS certainly chucks his wobblies, but he is being ever so good lately (touch wood). If he says 'go away' or 'don't do this or that' then like another PP I reiterate to him that I understand, and I just don't do it. He actually says 'go away' a lot to our helper and I've noticed that she gets in his face too much and he just doesn't like it. They all now just have the words to express how they are feeling, and that is a good thing.

If DS isn't listening, I get him to 'turn on his listening ears' and he tugs on them and will then listen to me. I make sure he looks at my face too rather than being distracted by something else.

Everything always passes, you just have to ride the wave