hi arte- I'm going to go against the grain here and say that ds1 is not like this at all. it could be a personality thing. i don't know?
i know these sorts of things have been going on for a while for you though, and to be completely honest, i think maybe you might need to get some outside advice about it all. please take this in the way that i mean it, out of concern, not critiscm. you know that we are friends and thats why i feel that i can say this to you xox