Age gaps between siblings

[Rouge]

Seriously don't waste your time stressing over these things. I'm sure they have a point but then I'm sure there are benefits for being close together too. You have a family dynamic that works for you and you don't need to let someone elses opinion question that. Its just an article, don't stress it. If I got offended at every thing that seemed to be pointing the finger at me I would always be offended about something. Not worth it, redirect that energy into your beautiful family and know you are doing whats right for you, regardless of the advice that is out there for others. And remember what might seem offensive to you may be very helpful to someone else. Its all relative. So don't stress over it

[BellyBelly]

I dont find it insulting, I have had my two 2.5 years apart and managed okay, but it was also hard with Marisa but I think it was more her personality. There is so much out there that agrees with what we do and some doesn't, I really don't feel phased by it as it's not attacking anyone, just someone's opinion like everything else... I agree with Cailin don't waste precious energy or stress over it.

I guess these experts need to spend time studying all sorts of things and come to an 'average' conclusion... not a conclusion thats 100% applicable - never seen a study that applies to 100%.

[Willow]

I read the article today too and it actually does point out some benefits of having children close together too. I thought it was pretty balanced

I can understand why you may have been offended by that first quote though Kim.

[shellbell3]

Don't let it offend you like mentioned everyone has there opinions. I don't think there is any right or wrong way, there are always pros and cons for both. Just gotta be up to the parents to decide what will suit there family.

[MantaRay]

Kim, my boys were 19 months apart and that doesn't offend me. TBH I think it's true to a point. I can see where Tom has been slower to do things, is a thumb sucker, and seems to need constant reassurance. Part of this could be genetic, but I think it's also partly due to me having less one on one time with him when he was a baby. I also know that at times I have been far less patient with them both, than I would have been with just one child under 3 to look after.

But by the same token, I can also see the joy the boys get from each other, how they light up when they see each other, how Tom learns so much from Jack and thinks the sun shines out of him. I can also see that spreading kids out for me would also have made me an older mum second time around, and therefore probably less patient anyway.

So bascially I think it's swings and roundabouts. Pros and cons. There is no one right way, there are just different ways. And certainly my boys have missed out on some things, but boy have they gained in others. And I wouldn't change a thing.

[visitor1]

Thanks everyone...you all make some great points. I agree...every article will get up some ones nose somehow. We all do things that work for us...and im glad i have done what i choose to do!

Perhaps i read into it a bit to deep....my fault. I guess because i got *punished and bullied* by soooooo many people when i fell pregnant so soon...its a topic close to my heart.

[Willow]

Perhaps i read into it a bit to deep....my fault. I guess because i got *punished and bullied* by soooooo many people when i fell pregnant so soon...its a topic close to my heart.

That's so understandable Kim I'm not much of a fan of the subject matter myself - we wanted our children close together but lost our second baby and then had to go through IVF to conceive L so we ended up with a bigger gap than we wanted and sometimes I really feel it.

[Trillian]

Don't worry about it Kim, its easy enough to do. You're happy so what some dude says in a magazine article has nothing to do with you.


BTW - you're not pg again are you?

[visitor1]

BTW - you're not pg again are you?

Not yet...gimme a month or 2...maybe...