When I was pg dd got increasingly anxious about having me close. I had to take her out of occasional care, put her back in my bed and couldn't leave her with anyone. In fact the day I went into labour she screamed about going to the park with her dad!

Then as soon as the baby was here she was fine, and became even more independent. Kids sense these things, and are very sensitive to changes.

I found keeping her close helped her get over it sooner. I know how impossible that seems when you're just about to have a baby. I was in tears often with feelings of being torn between my needs to concentrate on baby and dd. But it's like all that ground work made for a really smooth transition once ds was here.

So even though it feels like a step backwards, could you sleep with her somehow or get dh to camp on the floor of her room from the start of the night, so when she wakes up she sees someone there?

I know cosleeping when pg isn't great, but could you just put her to bed in your bed?

I'm sure you've tried everything, but just wanted to offer support and let you know what worked for us.