Thanks girls

Dachlostar - so do you think i am doing the wrong thing giving her solids at all? I dont know how i can take them away when she loves dipping the spoon in and feeding herself.. I also enjoy the solids and since i introduced them i have gone from having to bf 10 times a day to 5 - she holds out longer (used to be 2 hours) and not demanding so much over night. I honestly have had many a moment where i am over Bf-ing. It is just so draining and this gives me a break.. but do you think i am being neglectful?

and as for allergies and food introduction, i am still unsure because there is a lot of conflicting information and nothing that is concrete enough for me to make a definitive decision about that topic.

Rosehip - did your bub have any problems on the 3 : 3 ratio?

Hoobley - we were the same, dd would open her mouth or grab at the spoon and put it in her mouth, she much prefers to feed herself. Maybe i should just give her a little less and keep the same foods... but for how long? when do i start increasing variety and volume??

The solids are ALWAYS 30mintues (sometimes an hour if i am rushed or out and about) after a feed - they never replace a BF so i guess i wonder it can be bad as she is still having 4 bfeeds a day.

As for the dream feed - i had the same comment but i was guilted into it i guess. I figured i never dream fed her before (but she did have a feed at 3am)... and when i cut out the 3am feed the HN said that she had to still have 5 bf's a day.. so if i cut it out i need to dream feed.....
should i try to give it up.??
will i be denying her of a bf she needs??

rah i think i am going crazy!!