Controlled Crying is bad, mmkay?

[nothing2lose]

I am not an advocate for controlled crying at all. I co slept with DD and she moved into her own room when she was almost three. I was also blessed that she never had sleep issues. I cannot remember one time when I was up during the night with her screaming (don't hate me!!!)

That said, when she moved into her own room, there were nights she wasnt happy about it. I settled her for hours, but as soon as I left she would be wide awake and screaming. There were times I did let her scream (not for a prolonged period). Then i would go into her and reassure her. She learnt to self settle and sleep on her own (which, dont hate me, I think is important).

I think there is a difference HotI between infants, toddlers and pre-schoolers and how we parent them, as long as the constant behind that parenting is love and security. I think some of it is luck (having a good sleeper, etc) but I also think some of it is conditioning.