From *my* limited experience with two very different children it was about being able to tell the difference between an 'I'm grizzly and want to have a whinge/protest cry' to a full blown 'I really need a cuddle/kiss/pat etc Mum because I'm not coping cry'. And for *me* there is a very vast difference between CC and CIO and I understand and accept, that for a gentle parent philosophy, there is no diffrentiation.

I also wonder, how many of us grew up in the era where leaving a bub to cio was the 'norm' and if we were, do we feel damaged by it? Both my parents have passed, so i'm unable to ask but it is something I do think about
I guess as with each generation, we know better, therefore, we try to do better