Being sleep deprived doesn't help much either.

Try to get DH to help you out with the kids, even if it is to distract them while you cook tea in peace! Make time for yourself too.

It helps if you are both on the same page when dealing with DD. My DH is very authoritarian, and it has taken him a while to come to terms with the 'praise' rather than just yelling at them all the time. But after a few weeks we rarely have to yell at all, the kids are calm, DH is calmER, and most of all Mummy is happy.

Toni.