Keira.... my dad is the same as your DH, and when my mum had my little bro in 2001, I remember when my bro would cry, mum would rush in to see what was wrong, and dad would say to mum that she is creating a spoilt brat. All mum said was - its instinct. I can't ignore him because it hurts in my heart if I do, and thats how I know its wrong. Of course, it didn't mean anything to dad, but I think you know what she means...

one of the most profound things I have heard about comforting you child when he/she cries is this..... (its not a direct quote, and I can't even remember who said it, but it made Shel realise that CC is not the way to go... she even looked really guilty that she would consider that with out bub2b)... By allowing your child to cry, you are reinforcing an idea that they aren't heard or acknowledged, that their attempts to call you are pointless. You are ignoring their needs. Yes, babies cry for attention. Because they need attention. They can't call you, they can't ask for help, if they are uncomfortable, hurt, hungry, tired, or lonely, they cry for you. Imagine if you were feeling lonely, and you asked your partner for a cuddle, and you partner just ignored you. That would be pretty upsetting huh? This is what you're doing to your child by ignoring their cries.
And you may think you've won when you're child stops crying... but your childs need haven't gone away. They are just suppressed.
Who knows what the effects of CC are? Maybe you are beginning a pattern of withdrawal, a child who doesn't allow others to know what they need, because they don't believe anyone else can fulfill their needs, they think they'll be let down?? Are these the adults who feel uncomfortable asking for help>
What are the effects of a child who is consistently comforted and soothed by a parent? Mayeb they are the adults of the world who are trusting, loving, and giving, able to trust others with fulfilling their needs, able to share, able to be open with how they feel, and asking for help and advice...?

You never know, but I found it really profound to read. It changed Shel's mind about it (she believved CC was good, and consistant comforting would just create a spoilt child. We are now searching for a king size bed. We have a water bed and Shel has done the research, and you can't co-sleep with a baby in a waterbed... She has changed so much she is wants to buy the perfect bed to co-sleep... big enough for us and a bubba or two!