Firstly i think its totally normal for you to not want to leave DS. I am the same with DD. i feed to sleep and still BF and didnt leave her with anyone at 9 months!!
we dont have any Grandparents here so i dont feel that presure but lots of friends offer and i just say thanks il keep that in mind. but no way would i leave her with any of them! most dont have kids and ive seen them look after other kids and wouldnt feel happy leaving D with them!
One 'friend' was shocked when i told her i hadnt really spent more that half an hour away from DD, even when leaving her with DH. Saying ''oh you poor thing, dont you need your freedom. i could take her so you could get a break'' I didnt understand.....I feel so lucky and privilaged to be able to be with DD 24/7...i dont need 'freedom' from DD...and i do everything i want to do....with DD in tow. But we are all different!!
Now DD is 15 months old and DH takes her for a few hours on his mornings off...DD and I are both so happy to see each other when he brings her home, but they both always have a great time together. I left DD with a good friend who is a nanny and i really trust her...but i put her to bed first and was back before 11 when she sometimes wakes up again. if she had woken i was just round the corner...i still rang three times and held my phone the whole night just in case lol
Dont let anyone rush you in to leaving her! Even grand parents, as long as they are getting lots of time together thats the main thing.