thanks for the replies and the suggestions everyone.

I think we are making some progress on the hitting thing... when she hits ive been telling her to be gentle and showing her how to be gentle- it distracts her and she turns nice and now shes starting to come up and rub my face or leg or whatever just like i show her LOL for no reason- she wants the attention for being a gentle girl.

As for the words.... she is such a little bugger. She CAN talk, shes just stubborn. Yesterday she learnt to say fish and fishie for goodness sake, "theres fish, theres fish"