I think you did the right thing. Maybe a little less yelling if you think you went overboard, but your DS needs to learn that it's not the end of the world and that he was over reacting. In going into his room ne calmed down thought about what happened and seems to have realised it wasn't the worst thing in the world and ate his food. Fodd is to eat and not a toy, yes he has some choice, but only to an extent. I agree with Liz on the food and the attention/tantrum things. I think you did a good job!!