I made toast (at Jacobs request) I asked did he want Vegemite or peanut butter.. peanut butter was the answer. I triple checked and each time it was peanut butter.. what happens as soon as I hand him the toast.. GRR he wants vegemite.. I refue to give in.. He was given a choice and was asked if e was sure and I am sure he just wants to be difficult..
I simply told him he was given a choice and peanut butter was the choice he made,, He can either eat that or go hungry!
Ahhh Nic, that could so easily be Tehya. She does that to me all the time with her toast. This morning I asked her what she wanted for breakfast as I was making Abbey's and Noah's, she said nothing, so that's what I gave her
Of course the second I sat down to feed Abbey she comes out whinging that she want's weetbix, I get up and make them then she goes off and plays I tell her to come and eat her breakfast so she deliberately spilt it all over the floor. She never said anything just took herself to her room. LOL. I hadn't noticed the spilt cereal yet. Noah tells me that she spilt it (dobber) and that she did it on purpose. I call Tehya out and ask her, she tells me yes, she gets yelled at and a smack on the bum and sent back to her room.
Now she has what she asked for in the first place. NOTHING!!
I'm not a waitress either, I refuse to do 10 different things. I will ask, you will answer or you get nothing. You will get your answer right the first time (yes I check repeatidly, even while making it) if it's wrong, on your behalf you go without. Until I am ready to make you something else that is.
I am glad I am not the only one who is like that. I tell you eat when I serve breakfast, lunch or dinner or you go hungry.. I don't have the time to serve meals at all different times and all different meals..
Thankfully my older 2 are fine with meal times.. Jacob still hasn't eaten breakfast and is pretty mcu sulking still..
ps I like your new ticker pic and your pink line...
As a rule (which means when i'm tired or upset it can and does go out the window) i try to look at it from DD's POV. SHe also chucks tanties about food prep (among other things). BUt she has to eat when i say, what i say and even if i offer her choices, they are limited by what i am willing to buy/make. So to a great extent i give her the choices i CAN so she feels empowered.
In the morning she says "I hungry" and steals my duvet (how rude!) and i say "what do you want?" and she almost always says "banana". SO i get her a banana, and i say "do you want it sweet?" (that means with the peel round it still) and then i peel it how she wants it. I have to take medication at least 30mins before eating so i do so then, and then when i go to have breakfast she has more. TOast i ask "Butter or peanut butter?" "squares, rectangles or triangles?" (had to LOL at your post Dach - i had to cut a cheese sandwich into 3 triangles and a square last week....) etc. I always give her the choices i can.
If i don't give her choices and she melts down i tell her i'm sorry she feels upset, but that mummy was tired/busy/whatever the reason was, and had to cook fast and forgot to ask, and i offer her the chance to choose the next meal instead. If i DO offer her choices and she changes her mind i tell her that she needs to think carefully next time, or she'll go hungry again and leaver her to it. If she wants to eat she has food, if she wants to sulk well, that's free!
GOt shivers reading your post aussienic, dreamed it last week and when i was reading it i got really strong deja vu and kept checking to see when you posted...
Registered User
Reply With Quote
Bookmarks