Trill, he has never been in a cot. We have tried telling him that it makes us sad but it doesn't do anything. It has been such an on-going nightmare and DH said some things last night that made me realise that it is really affecting their relationship.

Sunshine, thanks for your reply. We always do tea, walk, bath, books then bed. He doesn't usually cry at the start, he just keeps getting up and coming out, then eventually DH will shut the door on him which starts a tantrum. We go in every few minutes, he will calm down but won't get in bed and then comes straight out, the door gets shut again and the cycle repeats until he is so exhausted that he can't keep up the fight any more.